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The essential pillars of marital life
Sep 20, 2024 9:42 AM

  Marital happiness is a dream that all husbands and wives have had since the beginning of time and many spouses are still trying to fulfill this dream through all possible means. Nevertheless, being away from the true teachings of Islam and sound prophetic guidance has led them to confusion between the different means: Western and Eastern. However, when one returns to the Sunnah (Traditions) of the Prophet he will inevitably reach his goal. Allah The Almighty has granted success to one of the callers to Allah to compile the pillars of the marital life, which are:

  First: good intention

  This means that the spouses should begin their marital life with a sincere intention to obtain the pleasure of Allah The Almighty. This would be displayed in the following matters:

  1 – Maintaining ones' chastity, guarding the private parts against committing sin, lowering the gaze and fulfilling each spouse's responsibility towards the other.

  2 – Establishing the Muslim home in concordance with the methodology of Allah The Almighty.

  3 – Producing righteous offspring who affirm that there is nothing worthy of worship except Allah and who worship Him as He should be worshipped.

  Second: Cooperation with one another in obeying Allah The Almighty

  Third: Establishing a Muslim home and family

  Fourth: Building the marital relationship on love, mercy and kind association

  Before talking about marital happiness, there is a set of rules that a wife should comprehend and be fully aware of

  First: a human being has three levels

  This is specific to mental and cognitive aspects.

  Second: a woman must distinguish between two things

  i) This is specific to the basic instincts and desires (the abdomen and sexual organs).

  ii) Good association (affection and mercy), and this also has its components.

  Satisfying the husband's needs according to his age as well as his economic status are components of stability. The woman should know the man's needs and the manner in which he thinks.

  A righteous woman can achieve her husband's essential needs in terms of security and efficiency, as stated in Maslow's hierarchy of needs. This includes the basic needs:

  Through maintaining his wealth and honor, in addition to patience, chastity, and so on.

  Through satisfying basic needs, sexual desires etc.

  He is looking for a loving wife and a friend. Add-ons

  Third: a pious woman never asks until she gives

  Such a woman gives first and then asks. A Bedouin woman offered her daughter the following advice on her wedding day, "Be an earth for him and he will be your sky; be a bondmaid for him and he will be your slave."

  This is an indispensable introduction that should be known before discussing marital happiness and its components in detail.

  Fourth: Sufficiency, this is specific to feelings and emotions (heart and sentiments)

  Fifth: Security, the stability of the home, and this has its components

  i) - The lower level

  ii) - The middle level

  iii) - The highest level

  Fifth: Forgiveness and pardoning.

  Sixth: Calmness at times of anger.

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