Suppose that your kids have come home on Halloween night (October 31) and begged you to go trick-or-treating. They can't wait for all of the bubble gum, lollipops and jawbreakers, not to mention dressing up in a Pokemon or witch costume like the rest of their friends.

　　You watch all of this in dismay. Knowing that Halloween is about Shirk (making partners with Allah) you want to put your foot down once and for all and not let the kids go out that evening.

　　These are their tips about how you can deal with the Halloween hoopla:

　　Tip 1: Find out exactly what Halloween is.

　　Too often, parents themselves are in the dark about the background of occasions and holidays like Halloween. Don't think this is a trivial matter. Once you find out why Halloween is celebrated, you will think twice about getting your kids involved. In fact, any parent who is trying to raise his or her child as a God-conscious individual will object to the celebration of the occasion. Just spend an hour at the library looking it up in the encyclopedia. To get an Islamic perspective, check out a review of Holiday Myths. If you discuss it with your kids using correct information, and they sense that you know what you are talking about, they may even agree with you about not participating in the ritual.

　　Tip 2: Talk to them at least a few weeks in advance.

　　This is made easier by the fact that Halloween sales of candy and costumes are already underway and the yearly ritual of horror movies being released or shown on television. So the atmosphere is right to sit 'Aa'ishah or 'Ali down to have a talk about Halloween. Talking to them now as opposed to on the morning of October 31 will give them some time to think about it too, and get used to the idea of not having to go trick-or-treating just because their friends are.

　　Tip 3: Rationally explain that we have our own celebrations.

　　Talking about Halloween in the context of a fiery speech about how "these non-Muslims are so evil" will not help 'Aa'ishah or 'Ali see why they should not participate. Your histrionics will only blind them to reality. Instead, explain that every group or culture has its own celebrations, and we, as Muslims have our own. Halloween is a pagan celebration. But when 'Eed comes, that is our celebration. Explain calmly what it is, point out its dangers, and let your kids think about it.

　　Tip 4: Mention the other dangers of Halloween (this is for America).

　　Horror stories about razor blades in apples, Ex-Lax laxative given instead of chocolate to trick-or-treaters, or the dangers on the street should also be mentioned, but not made the focus of the reasons why you object to Halloween.

　　Tip 5: Explain that every one of our occasions has a meaning.

　　Remind your kids that for Muslims, our holidays always have a good, positive meaning. For example, at 'Eed-ul-Fitr, we celebrate our joy of fasting during the blessed month of Ramadan, which is a time we strive to get closer to Allah and be better Muslims. Halloween, on the other hand, is celebrated partly as a reminder of Shaytaan (Satan), who is evil, and whom everyone should avoid, and seek refuge from in Allah.

　　Tip 6: Emphasize that there is nothing wrong with being different.

　　This point is crucial because there will be other occasions later on in their lives when Muslim children must not participate in school activities. This does not mean permanent exclusion from all school and/or peer activities, but it means that as Muslims, they can take what is good, but they also have to learn to reject what is bad in a wise manner.

　　Tip 7: Meet your child's teacher to discuss it.

　　Arrange a meeting to discuss Halloween and celebrations or activities you, as a Muslim, would not want your child to be involved in. But also talk about what kinds of activities you would recommend or approve, and discuss Muslim celebrations.

　　Volunteer to come in during Ramadan, for example, to present and bring food for the kids during a talk about the month's significance for Muslims.

　　Tip 8: Don't send them to school the day of Halloween if there's a party.

　　If the teacher has scheduled a class Halloween party, simply don't send 'Ali or 'Aa'ishah to school that day. However, before you do this, you should write a short letter or note to the teacher and/or principal explaining why your son or daughter will not be attending school that day.

　　Tip 9: Take them to a Muslim friend's house on Halloween.

　　Don't make this a special occasion. If you regularly meet with other Muslim families and your children are friends with their children, visit them or invite them over just to play or hang out. This can take their minds off the Halloween hysteria happening outside.

　　Tip 10: Take them out for a doughnut.

　　Or anything else Halaal, just so you are not home when trick-or-treaters come knocking, which will reinforce the Halloween hysteria.

　　Tip 11: Turn off the lights, close the windows and educate your neighbors (for America or compounds who celebrate).

　　Turning off the lights will give the message this home isn't really interested in Halloween. Closing the windows may be necessary, since throwing eggs at someone's home who hasn't given candy is not uncommon on Halloween. Educate your neighbors about Halloween by posting a brief polite note about why you are not celebrating the occasion.

　　Shaema Imam, for example, on one Halloween, posted a decorative note on her door telling neighbors she does not support the pseudo-satanic glorification of evil as represented by Halloween. However, she said it is excellent that there is neighborhood cooperation to promote children's safety on Halloween (there were efforts in her area to ensure kids could trick-or-treat in safety). Imam didn't get any comments, but no one egged her house either, she says.

　　Tip 12: Spread the word: two to three weeks in advance, organize a seminar.

　　This would be for Muslim moms, dads, and their young kids. There should be a presentation on exactly what Halloween is and what Muslim parents can do about it. While this is being discussed, kids should be allowed to play together under the supervision of a couple of baby-sitters. This will serve to inform moms and dads, while giving kids a chance to have fun (and perhaps set up an invitation so they can avoid Halloween night craziness-see Tip 9)

　　Tip 13: Keep your promise about 'Eed.

　　For a number of Muslim youth who have grown up in the West, 'Eed is sometimes just another day, with parents not even taking a day off from work. In other cases, while parents may take the day off, the ritual is the same: get up, put on new clothes, drive to fancy hall, pray, not understand what's really going on, hug 'Eed Mubaarak, go back home, eat "ethnic" food, get money (as 'Eed gift). Period. It's no wonder our kids' eyes light up when they see Christmas lights, brightly wrapped gifts and hear of Halloween fun and treats.

　　Make 'Eed special. Don't just hype it up during Halloween to convince the kids not to participate and then break your promise. On 'Eed, take them to 'Eed prayer, take them out to a local 'Eed celebration or an amusement park. Organize a gathering and invite their friends over. The possibilities for Halaal fun are there. We owe it to our kids, if we want them to stay Muslim and to be proud of it, to celebrate the occasions in life that really matter to us, like the two 'Eeds.